Lilias (or Lillias) Cochrane Haddow was born c. 1826-28, probably in Loudoun Parish, although the 1861 census states that she was born in Galston. The event, however, appears not to have been entered in the OPR. Her age was entered as twenty-seven on the birth certificate of her son Thomas on the 22nd of March 1855, and then given in the 1861 census as thirty-four. Both these entries can be reconciled as exactly correct if she was born at the end of March or start of April 1827. Her middle name, Cochrane, was given on the death certificate of her son, Alexander Haddow Paton, in 1916.

Lilias Haddow appears as a 13 year old girl in the 1841 census record, living in Main Street, Newmilns, with her parents, brothers Matthew, Robert and Alexander, and sister Elizabeth.

Lilias was married to Thomas Paton at Loudoun on the 13th of December 1845.

Following the death of her parents in 1856, Lilias inherited twenty pounds sterling and 'the Press up Stairs'. She was also a residuary legatee under the terms of the will and as such entitled to a per capita share of whatever was left over after all the specific bequests had been met.

At the time of the 1861 census, she was living with her husband, six sons, two daughters and an employee of her husband's, and was designated solely as 'wife'. Something of the family's changing fortunes can be deduced from the 1871 census, one year after Thomas Paton's untimely demise. This time, the address is more specific, 3, Polwarth Street. Lilias, who now appears under the spelling of Lillias Patton, now works as a flesher, having presumably taken over her husband's business.

Her son Alexander, 17, works beside her. Thomas, 16, is a tailor. Matthew Haddow Paton, at 14, has already taken up work as a mason. Adam and John, 12 and 7 respectively, are both scholars, and Mary is a child of three. Lilias, Robert, Margaret, and Agnes, the four eldest children, who would in 1871 be 24, 22 and 20 respectively, have all left home, or are dead. In 1861, Lilias's birthplace was given as Galston, in 1871 it is given as Loudoun.

At the time of the 1881 census, Lilias was living at Hill Street, Kilmarnock, with her unmarried son Adam Haddow Paton.

Lilias Haddow died on the 22nd of January 1890, at 49 Ardgowan Street, Glasgow. Death resulted from apoplexy, cerebral haemorrage and valvular disease of the heart. The informant was John Paton, her son.

Brothers and Sisters

Lilias was the thirteenth of fourteen known children (six boys and eight girls). The first twelve were recorded in the Loudoun OPR, but there is no sign there of Lilias or her younger sister, Elizabeth.

Agnes Haddow, born 13th and christened 26th August 1804
Adam Haddow, born 2nd and christened 7th September 1806
Elisabeth Haddow, born 26th christened 30th April 1809
Alexander Haddow, born 16th November and christened 11th December 1810
Elisabeth and Jean Haddow (presumably twins), christened 31st October 1813
Matthew Haddow, born 7th February and christened on the 5th of March 1815
Margaret and Mary Haddow, born 7th Dec 1817, date of baptism not entered.
Robert Haddow, born 26th February 1819
Alexander Haddow, born 28th January 1822
Archibald Haddow, born 3rd August 1824
Elis Haddow, born 1832

Note - The name Elisabeth was used three times. 'Eliz', born c. 1832, is known from the 1841 census and this may well be an abbreviation for Elisabeth. Alexander was also used twice, also with obvious implications of infant mortality.

Agnes, born 1804, may be taken to be the same lady of that name who married George Hood from the parish of Galston on the 3rd of March 1822, since she was referred to as 'our deceased daughter Agnes Haddow or Hood' in the mutual disposition of Robert Haddow and Lilias Cochrane dated the 12th of December 1855. In this connection, legacies of £30 apiece are provided in favour of Agnes's son Robert and daughter Lilias.

Adam, born 1806, is apparently the same man who was married to Jean Morton on the 5th of June 1831 at Loudoun. Note that the Adam and Jean had a daughter, Lillias, who was born on the 24th of March, and 'Baptized publicly' on the 20th of April 1834. No doubt she was named after her paternal grandmother. Adam and Jean, with six children, are entered as residing at Bank Street, Newmilns, in the 1851 census.

Adam was the informant on the death certificates of both his parents in 1856.

'Eliasbeth' Haddow, born 1813, was buried at Loudoun on the 21st of March 1814.

Her twin sister Jean was buried at Loudoun on the 6th of January 1819.

Matthew, born 1815, was living in the family home at the time of the 1841 census. He was entered as 25 years of age, but no occupation was given.

Margaret, born 1817, was buried at Loudoun on the 1st of April 1819.

At the time of the 1841 census, Alexander, born 1822, was entered as a flesher, aged 19, living in the family home.

Archibald, born 1824, was buried at Loudoun on the 19th of September 1849. The OPR stated that 'he dyed in a Consumpton'.

Mary, born c. 1817, was married to John Guthrie Smith at Loudoun on the 14th of April 1838.

Robert, born 1819, appeared in the 1841 census living in the family home, entered (apparently inaccurately) as aged 20, and working as a flesher. He was still alive in 1856, as evidenced by the fact that his father was referred to on his burial record as Robert Haddow senior. Robert married Barbara Hutchison Mair, and they had a daughter named Ann Paterson Haddow, otherwise Annie, who was baptised in Loudoun on the 24th of October 1845. She married Robert Muir on the 19th of September 1862, also at Loudoun. According to a monumental inscription transcript held at the Dick Institute, Kilmarnock, Robert Muir died on the 2nd of August 1885, aged 42, and was buried in Newmilns cemetery.

Eliz (presumably Elizabeth) appears in the 1841 census living in the family home and aged nine. She is still there in 1851, aged 18, and working as a housemaid. This source reveals that she was born at Newmilns. There is no sign of her birth or baptism in the OPR. She reappears in the terms of her parents' Mutual Disposition and Settlement subscribed by her father on the 2nd of April 1849.

According to the OPR, unnamed children of Robert Haddow were buried at Loudoun on the 10th of November 1812 and the 2nd of June 1828.

The children of Robert Haddow and Lilias Cochrane still living at the time of their various testamentary writings were 'Adam Haddow and Robert Haddow Fleshers and Graziers Newmilns', who were appointed executors of the will. A third son, Alexander, was expressly excluded from the terms of the Mutual Disposition and Settlement on the grounds that 'we have already given to our son Alexander the Portion we intended for him'. Provision was also made for 'our three daughters Mary, Lillias and Elizabeth Haddow'. As noted above, specific reference is made to 'our deceased daughter Agnes Haddow or Hood'.